Friends, today I am hurt. Over something so insignificant. I am ashamed to even tell you what it is.
Yep. Today, I commented on someone’s status and every other comment got a “like” by the poster except mine. I was instantly upset and felt that I needed to call this person out. How unfair and rude, because I said something nice.
I want to tell you that I do not know why I was SO ANGRY over this silly little thing, but I absolutely know why I was. God has been trying and trying to show me that comparison is the thief of joy. I have been battling this for a while now, but, when I realized how ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS it was that I was upset OVER A FACEBOOK LIKE, it hit me hard. Our Father used this moment to draw me closer to Him. God is so loving and desperately wants to draw us closer to Him that He reaches out to us in the smallest of moments. The moments that are commonplace or moments that suddenly we are so focused on that we would not normally pay attention to.
So, there are three parts to this…
- I am beyond blessed to have the kid, family, and friends that I do. I am blessed beyond measure that they love me the way that they do. The truth is, though, that even their opinions do not matter. If God chose to remove everyone from my life and it was just me, God would still be great and still the only opinion that matters. Our identities are not in the opinions of others and what they think of us. Our value does not lie in their hands. We do not answer to people behind little LED screens, on the other end of the phone line, or even across the room. We answer to one true God. My value does not diminish, because someone did like something I wrote, disagrees with my choices, or flat out does not like me. My Father LOVES me unconditionally. His love does not waiver no matter what I do. That is my value; saved, redeemed, restored.
- I am beyond blessed to have the kid, family, and friends that I do. I am blessed beyond measure that they love me the way that they do. I. Am. Blessed. Plain and simple. With or without social media and likes, loves, & hahas, I am blessed. I have more in my life than many people could imagine. If I am not joyful where I am, then no amount of social media love will bring me joy. My priorities are out of whack. Is that not the common theme anymore? Instead of focusing on our own lives, we are so focused on the highlight reels of others’ and cannot help but covet what they have. We want the life that others have, but we are not them. If you do not even like ice cream, why would you be jealous that I ate some last night? Our culture is breeding jealousy & desire and driving down appreciation for what we have. There always has to be more. There NEEDS to be more. And there is. There is more promised to us in our inheritance called Heaven. There is more to our hearts and our spirits in Christ than to anything in this world. So where is your focus? Where are your priorities? Are they in this world or above it?
- Grace. How many times have you hurt someone, even unintentionally, and wanted forgiveness? How many times have you disobeyed God and stepped outside of Him, yet He gave you grace? How come we want grace and forgiveness when we do wrong, but are so quick to throw stones when we are wronged? I think about the little things that I miss; not saying happy birthday, not liking comments/statuses, and neglecting texts. I do not mean to hurt people’s feelings and, most of the time, I do not even know if I did, but what if they were? I would hope that those people did not think I meant to hurt them. Would I not hope and want them to forgive me? Let us say this person who did not like my post did so deliberately. Does this person not deserve grace? Does seven times seventy-seven not apply here? How about not casting the first stone? Whether a transgression is deliberate or not does not matter in how we, as Christians, are to handle it. We are to forgive ALWAYS. We are not judges and we certainly are not to seek vengeance. An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
Our God is a loving, caring, and endless God. He seeks to grow us in Him. We are to live like Christ and that is our only comparison. That means we are not to try to be like our mentors, our friends, or even the disciples. When we fall short, when we give way to our sin, Our Father is always there constantly and fiercely loving us. We owe each other that love. Our value is found in that love and in that love alone. Put the hurt and comparison aside and live in the life God gave you. Live in the mess, the failures, the beauty, and the love. He will use it all the make you more and more beautiful and like Him. It is ALL for His glory.
Go forth and love others (and yourself) like Christ loves.